Me and the P* Word
Posted by RJ on May 29, 2008
This is for the filthy-mouthed heathens at Ration Reality. And I’ll go ahead and dedicate it also to all the blog scraping bastards who will attack within 24 hours (21 and counting!!).
I have never been able to use the p* word since my teen years. I’m not sure how exactly it came about…but it generally has to do with the use of the p* word and men.
I frequently heard the p* word being used by men when referring to the female genitalia. I think I may have originally heard it when I saw my first porn flick at a friend’s house in late elementary school. I was traumatized, not by the images, but by the fact that it was said over and over again,
“Girl, gimmie that p*,” “Do you like this p*?” “Whose p* is it?” “What a nice p*!” “Do you want this dick in your p*?!” (see how I have no problem with saying dick?).
Then, the boys started using it in middle school. It made my skin crawl the way they pretended to know so much about getting p*. I can probably thank the music scene at that time (Luther Campbell aka Uncle Luke, and 2 Live Crew–whose music I was infatuated with) for their rawness and misogyny.
P* was even an inflammatory term used for weak boys (who may, or may not have been effeminate) “He’s just a little p*.”
In my late teens and twenties, the p* word was used by both men and women. When a woman uses it in a normal conversation referring to her genitalia, I don’t have a problem. If it is an active dialogue, she can continue to use that word, but I will only say, “vagina.” When she uses it in a sexual conversation (usually reserved for the bedroom), I cringe (like on the movies, sicko, not like me being in the room with her!).
To a lesser degree, I detest other synonyms such as cunt, box, twat, and slit. I prefer coochie, cootie-cat, or similar terms that feel more childlike and innocent.
Whoa! Childlike and innocent. Is that my problem? Am I not grown enough to say p*? I don’t own the word like a woman should? Maybe I should take Lil’ Kim’s class, Queen Bitch 101. She damn sure was free with her use of the p* word, which I found amusing and repulsive.
Surely at this age I am comfortable with my sexuality and can express myself in adult-oriented ways….but the p* word just isn’t for me. So, until said time when I “mature”, I will share with you the only time I can use the word. Click below to see pictures of my pussy in action:
Before, (when it was winter)–My pussy partially exposed in the cold.
After (finally some warmth)–My pussy outside lounging.
May 29, 2008 at 9:11 pm
It’s just a word, darlin. As with all words, it has it’s place.
Perhaps you should join the no cussin’ club?
May 29, 2008 at 9:28 pm
Yes, I reckon it is right between my legs.
June 2, 2008 at 7:09 am
Coochie? Wow, that makes Charo seem so dirty!
June 3, 2008 at 1:43 pm
Have you been overseas or something? Where are you all getting these words?
June 3, 2008 at 2:19 pm
yes, RJ, I have been overseas. More than once. Thanks for deleting my old comment. I like that my words found their way into this post, stroking my ego is good.
June 3, 2008 at 8:19 pm
What did your old comment say? How do you know I really deleted it and that it wasn’t Big Bad Akismet?
June 7, 2008 at 5:51 pm
The history of using terms that are normally female words such as “pussy” or even “girl” to boys is just part of the way women are demeaned in our society.
I think there is great power in claiming these words for ourselves though….
Personally, I have no problem with the word pussy or even cunt (I often use it in my writing as I like to talk about rougher forms of sex and that term just really seems appropriate in such writing). Additionally, “cunt” has been reclaimed by certain circles of women. There is a book called “Cunt” that you should check out.
The terms you choose to use to describe your vagina are yours and if you feel comfortable with them than that is one thing but if you wish you could use different words, more “adult” words, as you say than I think it really just starts by saying those “adult” words whenever you think of saying the other terms. At first, it will seem really strange/icky but it will get to be more familiar and be just another word to describe vaginas….
I will say though that even though it seems I throw “pussy” and “cunt” around I really will only do so in my writing or with my sexual partners. In more casual conversation, these terms are just far too sexual so I say “vag”…..
Interesting discussion, really…..
June 9, 2008 at 10:50 am
I’ll check out the book as I am always eager to read new material.
They have demeaned us forever, and on the radio a few weeks ago, they were talking shit about how women are hoes and tramps and all the good ones are hard to find…go figure. I think I shall write about that one!
I figured you didn’t throw the word around in your “average” conversation, but you know what, I’ve heard of women using the p* word in front of their own doctor! Have mercy!
June 9, 2008 at 6:32 pm
Wait, so women aren’t tramps and hoes? Ok, I’ll believe you this time. Srsly, what a doctor’s visit.
Woman: “Doc, my pussy, it’s broken.”
or
Woman: “Doc, what the fuck is wrong with my snatch?”
Doctor: “Tramp.”
Hey, don’t feel bad, men are tramps and hoes too.
June 10, 2008 at 12:40 pm
Keywork, you had me almost pissin on myself. I don’t know if using the p* word, or “bootie-hole” is worse. I saw the latter on a documentary.
June 10, 2008 at 4:30 pm
I think ‘bootie-hole’ is totally unacceptable. Always.
June 11, 2008 at 2:38 pm
I agree. That’s why I keep mine off limits
June 17, 2008 at 1:05 pm
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